How our small breasts define us...

    If you ask the average hillbilly American, “Appearance wise, what’s the difference between a man and a woman?” Though they may not say it, I guarantee you, the first thing that pops into their heads is, “A woman has boobs!” But what if the woman doesn't have boobs? Does that make her less of a woman? In reality, no… but in our minds the answer is a resounding - yes. What do you mean by, “In our minds?” –Answer: This culture has pressed the message that flat chests are not an acceptable asset to the female body.

     For instance, ever seen a flat chested Victoria’s Secret model? Have you ever found lingerie that’s not padded to make the 32AA to look like a B? If you’re flat, have you ever noticed how when you bend over in a bikini, the top opens right up and exposes your sweet nothing’s? The fashion industry, despite their flat-chested anorexic cat-walkers, might be unknowingly telling us – your flat chest is just not acceptable. According to an anonymous servey I found online, only 2% of women in America are sized A or AA, perhaps there just isn't enough of us in order for the major fashion designers to invest in us by creating lingerie for flat chested women and clothing that doesn't gape and expose. And that’s giving them the benefit of the doubt.

    On the contrary, there are enough 32AA bras on the rack at your local lingerie department to suggest there is definitely a worthwhile target audience, so why not make create and sell non-padded AA bras, complete with a suitable clothing line and flat model campaign? Because that wouldn't sell. Why?... Because flat chested women are ashamed…  They don’t want to be flat… because the media, men and the whole damn mall suggests we are less beautiful... So not true.... It’s time to redefine the flat chest.

    The size AA woman's wardrobe revolves around its' ability to conceal and pad the truth, thus empowering the stigma. Don’t get me wrong, there’s nothing wrong with wearing a padded bra, it’s the lack of acceptance that saddens me; teen girls slouching over their under developed chests or perfectly skinny girls wearing a t-shirt to the swimming pool… it’s sad and unnecessary.

   My motto - don’t let small boobs define you, you define them! Look, men get hard when looking at boobs – that’s right, I went there - whether your boobs are small or large, seriously, boobs are boobs! Let’s say you’re about to take it all off for the first time with your new man, but right during the great unveiling moment, he sees you’re flat and he goes totally limp… (Every flat chested woman’s worst nightmare,) but that’s not gonna happen! Change your perspective: First of all he’d have to be a real blue-ribbon jerk to go limp over small boobs, second, it’s every man’s worst nightmare to go limp while trying to woo a woman into bed… Besides, in my opinion flat women typically have prettier nipples, yes we do. Be proud, it's a dare!

   Flat seems like such a bad word, as some people change their names to adopt an sense of self they can identify with, let us redefine the word flat… any suggestions for a nicer way to say flat? Say… itty bitties?

   As an American I am very ashamed at how this country copes with having a flat chest – hide it. If you’re gay, you’re encouraged to come out of the closet. If you’re overweight, you’re encouraged to either own it or lose it, but if you’re flat, you’re encouraged to wear a padded bra. What gives? By, ‘encouraged,” I mean what the magazines tell us is pretty, and by what is available in the stores… and oh yeah, not to mention how perfectly socially acceptable it is to snicker under your breath, “Dude, that chicks flat.” You wouldn't laugh at somebody for having brown hair would you? You wouldn't tease somebody for being overweight would you? Is it mature to make fun of somebody for being deformed? No, so why gawk and stare at the flat chest –as if it were a deformity? It’s not a deformity… %2 of American women are an AA… and they all probably wear padded bras… Come on 2% percent; you’re beautiful and should stand up for your chest!

  Another influence that’s not helping is all the overweight women, (40% of American women,) who are jealous of skinny girls, make cheap jabs at us skinny girls to make themselves feel better. “She may be skinny but, she’s flat and has no butt… so THERE.” Hey now! Easy, Easy! No fair! I call fowl ball right there. If you've ever seen an episode of The Biggest Loser you will see that most overweight people hold the power to lose weight if they empower themselves a certain measure will. Flat girls, however, cannot grow boobs… if they could, there would probably be exist a reality show called The Biggest Grower, in which flat chested women attempt to increase their bust size with their diet. It’s a myth that if a skinny, flat chested women simply attained a certain weight, they can increase their bra size significantly. In my personal experience, I have weighed 92 lbs and up to 160 during pregnancy, then back down to 100, and only increased my bra size from AA to B then A. So, come on my chubby friends, fight fair…

   Being flat is an unspoken journey that 2% of us women walk every day, trying to enhance our sense of sexuality with padded bras and expensive make-up to draw attention away from our chests. I hope to encourage you sisters to help END the demeaning stigma and challenge you to be brave!

Until recently, the fashion industry has left us A Girls out of the picture. If you were an A Girl in the 80’s, you probably dressed you’re A cups in baggy clothes and never told a soul. Then in the 90’s we started seeing better designed padded A cups, and now we’re starting to FINALLY see garments fitted for the last but not least AA Girl. Since these things weren’t around when our mother’s were growing up, us A Girls have had to walk this journey alone, learning how to properly dress and identify with our out-casted small busts. Who to turn to when there are so few of us let alone find a place with undiscriminating answers? Here - I hope to expose you to new tips and tricks to sport yourself:

HOW TO BE AN A-GIRL! DO's and Don'ts:

DON'T: Bow your shoulder's forward in an unsightly concave slouch to conceal your chest. Not only does it suggests poor self esteem and depict a women who is not to be taken seriously, it actually makes your boobs looks smaller than they actually are. The purpose is to take the attention off your chest but it does the opposite actually, it leaves your company awkwardly pretending not to be staring at your tiny busts. Plus hunching is unattractive and considered to be, in some cultures, rude and interpreted as inhibited and lazy. Many of us love Kiera Knightly, but in this picture she demonstrated what I suggest not to do.

DO: Pull your shoulders back and practice good posture. The less you think about exposing your AA cups to the world, the less the world will be concerned about them. a great way to put yourself in a great habit of applying good posture, is to pretend there is a string attached t the top of your head - as if you are a Christmas ornament, and allow your weight to fall accordingly.

DON'T: Wear cross-over V-Necked blouses unless you have either, A.) The proper sized busts to fill them, or B.) Proper apparel to conceal your small busts once you bend over and expose yourself, (because if you're an A Girl, you undoubtedly will.) 

DO: Wear a layer beneath wide collared shirts such as v-necks and low cut tank tops. I personally prefer the spaghetti strap tanks at Forever21.com - they are only $2 and if you have one in every color you'll be empowered to wear nearly any shirt you want, with the proper coverage. Tip: I cut mine just below the bust-line so that they are short like a sports bra, this way I don't feel like I'm wearing layers.

DON'T: Hurry out the door without checking your flash-ability! Look in the mirror and bend over, can you see your sweet nothings? If the answer is yes, don't throw caution to the wind and leave for work. change your shirt or change your bra, but whatever you do, don't rely on your subconscious to look out for your girls all day long because the chances are, you will lose focus and accidentally flash somebody. And nobody is that lucky, right? ;) 

DO: Plan ahead. Empower yourself with the appropriate bras, like the ones from one of my suggested sites, and assign your shirts to the appropriate bras. Know which shirts go with which bras - maybe consider storing your bras in the same drawers as you do the matching shirts to ave yourself time in the morning. You'll find the more appropriately fitted AA bras you accumulate, the less time you'll spend trying to get your shirts to look right in the morning.